I recently came across the song We Exist by Arcade Fire. If you haven’t heard it, have a listen. Close your eyes, let the music wrap around your skin and sink into your bones
I love the lyrics in this song, especially this part:
Down On Your Knees
Praying That We Don’t Exist
This song speaks to me. In the *LGBTQIA+ community only parts of the community are recognized as being normal, real and are understood. Lesbian and gay people are relatively seen as completely normal, but, what about bisexual, transgender and asexual people? The representation of these types of people is lacking and skewered to the point of ridiculousness. The education of these sexualities is definitely lacking. The result of this is that people have very little knowledge of these people and they are often misunderstood. Bisexual people get told that their sexuality
isn’t real, even though it’s very real. Transgender people are misunderstood and asked the stupidest things. You wouldn’t ask anyone else what lies between their legs, but it somehow seems okay to do that with transgender people, like that’s any of your business. Asexual people are downtrodden on because
of how they feel attraction and sexual desire (which can be none what so ever). Just because you don’t understand a sexuality, it doesn’t make it any less real. To me, it’s like trying to imagine a wall out of existence or anything that is completely solid and real. Whenever I hear people say that any sexuality across the spectrum isn’t real I feel like playing this song and singing it at the top of my lungs like some crazed war cry: we exist, we exist, we exist.
*LGBTQIA+ = Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex, Asexual. The + is there because there are so many more sexualities including pansexual, grey-a and demi-sexual. I'm just recognising that I haven't put all of the letters in.
Anjulie Te Pohe
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